Oh, friend… what a wild few weeks right?!
One minute you’re planning the wedding of your dreams, making final preparations, placing the final touches on your seating charts, when suddenly we’re told to not gather with more than 10 people, schools closed, working remotely, you name it! This pandemic is certainly nothing to simply brush aside, we need to be cautious, we need to keep not only ourselves but our neighbors safe.
But… sweet friend, even if you agree with everything that I just said, I know that doesn’t make your heart hurt any less to postpone your big day.
Where do you even start with postponing a wedding?
If you have a wedding planner, you’re already so fortunate to have someone to help you with this, but if you don’t here are a few tips from us!
Stay calm! As much as this might seem like a time to panic, it will not help, not even a little bit.
Take a hot bath. Talk to your significant other about what steps to take next. Ask your Mom or Maid of Honor to help you with rescheduling, which you can read more about below! Take a day to simply chill out at home, read a book, snuggle with your dog, laugh at your favorite movie! It’s okay to take the day off!
I am an enneagram 6, so I personally crave security, so I don’t have to tell any of you what a rollercoaster this has been for me! If you’re in stress mode, I’m with you, I truly am! But at the end of the day, I know I have to take care of myself and stay healthy in order to better serve my clients.
Postpone! Don’t cancel!
As tempting as it might be to simply throw your hands up, allow me to encourage you for just a bit.
You obviously do not want to lose all the retainers you’ve sent out to all these vendors. You don’t want your bridesmaids to lose money on dresses, your groomsmen on suit rentals, and not to mention, the time you’ve already spent on everything so far. I could name so much, but I’m trying to keep this short. I also have a tiny feeling that you don’t want to cancel your celebration!! You’re probably feeling so overwhelmed, but at the end of the day, postponing isn’t the worst thing!
“But Kayce, my May wedding was going to be a lot of navy blue and blush pink, it won’t go for an October wedding!” Oh, yes it can, girl! We’re in South Mississippi and there’s no rule that October brides must stay in the fall color scheme. Ask your florist for tips on how to balance keeping your original color scheme but moving to a later date. I guarantee you, she/he can help!
At the end of the day, this is definitely a MAJOR setback, but you can also use the extra time to your advantage. You have more time to save money for those vendor payments. You have more time to work on decor if you need it. You can have extra time to save more money towards your flower budget if you wanted larger centerpieces or bouquets. You have time to find a day of coordinator to handle all of those needs for your special day!
See where I’m going with all of this? I can come up with more if you need them! 😉
Have you seen that movie, “Bride Wars” with Anne Hathaway and Kate Hudson? The part in the movie where they describe every bride wants to get married at the Plaza Hotel in June? Well, it’s true, Saturday’s are a popular date, but don’t write off a Friday or Sunday wedding. Some venues and vendors even offer special pricing for Friday and Sunday weddings that are not during peak season!
So you have your heart set on having the wedding in July, but the venue you adore doesn’t have even one Saturday available? Ask them about Friday or Sunday dates that are still open! If your bridal party and guests know ahead of time that your wedding is on a Friday, taking off for work shouldn’t be an issue at all.
Once you get 2-3 dates from your venue, contact your vendors to see what date the vast majority can accommodate.
I hope this helps YOU breathe a little easier! If you need to talk, feel free to message me! We’re here for you!